A few days ago, my co-worker sent me a buzzfeed article about a girl’s reaction to alot of her friends getting engaged. It was classic. Everyone around her was over joyed over the sparkly rings and she had two fingers to her temple with a “just shoot me now” look plastered on her face.
While I never was the marriage type and never thought I would be envious of others who are getting engaged, I am. It has happened. I want that. I want to know there is a man (who I also want to marry) who wants to make me his forever and feels me worthy enough to put a ring on it.
Before you even say it, yes I know that getting engaged and married is not the end all be all and well it does not prove anything. Lots of people rush into it because of how easy getting a divorce in this day and age has proven to be. I want forever. I refuse to have multiple marriages and when I get married it is eternal. Through thick and thin, till death do us part are more than just “vows”, they are ways of life when you choose to form that union with another person.
But still…. I am a 31 year old woman in a very committed, serious relationship who unhappily offers congratulations to each and every single one of her friends who calls or posts their news of elation on Facebook or various other social media channels. You just go through the motions and you fake it till you make it. But in the end, that little nagging voice in your head whispers “so why isnt it me?’.
As young women we are taught that getting married and starting a family is our ultimate goal and mission in life. Careers are important but being the perfect homemaker fulfills our destiny. Finding and marrying Prince Charming is the name of the game.
When we are in relationships and are at an appropriate age, it is always the never ending question of “when are you getting married?’. Well like Miranda from SATC did, I have a quick comeback for it… “about a year after he proposes”. It is instinctual now. My boyfriend and I have a fantastic relationship and anyone who is in our presence always comments on it. We are that ideal couple. We are as perfect as two imperfect people can be. We are ying and yang. He balances me out and he keeps my West Indian blood from boiling. I teach him to come out of his shell more and to express his emotions. Its a damn good relationship…. Minus the fact that well “he is getting the milk without buying the cow’.. HAHAHAHAHA!!!!
When a representative from Anjolee, diamond and jewelry extraordinaire contacted me about doing a post about their beautiful diamond anniversary rings, I instantly thought… “well at least someone is putting a ring on it”! (lol). I loved their different settings and the fact that they customize to your hearts delight. Personalization is key to me. I live by the “inhale fashion, exhale style” motto because I believe you must always add your own spin to any and every thing you do in life. Anjolee offers this to its customers and so much more. Once the ring was in my possession I played around with it. Wearing it alone and of course with my “fauxgagement” ring that I used to wear to keep the men at bay when I went out in public. Men certainly love a challenge because well, it did not work!
While being engaged would be awesome, I am slowly trying to change my way of thinking on it all. I do have a beyond amazing/perfect boyfriend ( Louis Hopson) who I love more than anything and I know loves me just as much back so I have no right to complain. But hey… I am a girl. We always want more right? Well from this day forward I have decided to relish in the fact that I have what alot of married women may not. I have a true soul mate and nothing can change that.
So yes, I am probably months, maybe even years away from being the one looking down at the man I love as he nervously goes down on one knee to propose to me but I am pretty sure that when it happens, it will be at God’s perfect time for me. Everything happens at its given time in your life. I am learning to stop trying to control situations and instead enjoy my life and love.
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